Okay, first of all, I have to state clearly that I haven't abandoned this site yet. 

I know that I haven’t updated anything in almost a month, but hey, I was super sick earlier this month. The flu attacked me hard this time as I was down for the whole week. I am always reluctant to take sick days even when I was in school (yes, this is stupid Capricorn talking). This time, I took 1.5 sick days! That’s quite a record for me. I was freaking tired the whole time and literally became the couch potato. Everyday after work, I simply immersed myself with my couch and watched TV non-stop. 

By the way, I found out two funny sitcoms: “How I Met Your Mother” and “Rules of Engagement”. They are both about relationships and so hilarious! Anyhow, my point is, I am still alive and I start to have this weird habit of not turning on my computer at home…(yep, this is written in English and this should tell you about my location now…) 

Peter’s uncle passed away and his parents went back to Taiwan for the funeral. He was rather depressed because he was concerned about his aunt’s well-being. According to Peter, this aunt took care of him when he was a child and they are still very close. He was planning to take me to visit them when we go back to Taiwan in April. Well, unfortunately, I do not have the opportunity to meet with his uncle. Anyhow, as a caring girlfriend, I tried to provide comfort by being a good listener. One thing led to the other. We had a great talk. Then, out of nowhere, Peter said “Thank you. Thank you for always being supportive and letting me rely on you”. 

Okay, I can understand the “supportive” part, but what about the other half of the sentence?! As a typical stubborn Capricorn, I always assume tons of responsibilities, and often become over-helpful. With the helps from my dear friends, I, too, realized that this is a serious mistake to do, especially in the relationships. In my ideal relationship, I would like to have a responsible, mature, and able significant other. However, by doing everything by myself (including taking on his responsibilities), I total defeat the purpose. If I finish everything, what else is left for him to do? If I expect him to take care of me, when will be his opportunity? Old habits die hard, but I have to try. 

So, poor Peter, when we first started dating, my little experiment also began. I tried to restrain myself from providing too much instrumental support (gosh, this is hard!). I kept reminding myself that I need him to be a reliable partner and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life being a nagging bitch. So, what I’ve been doing is to remind him about things (not doing those for him). To my surprise, unlike others, he exceeds my expectation! Finally, I feel that I can be taken care of and I can truly trust him when he said that everything is under control. What a relief! So, long story short, this is why I am surprised when Peter said “Thank you” and the whole “rely on you” thing. When I did too much, I received no appreciation (actually, I was totally being taken for granted). Now that I am not really doing anything, I am well appreciated!? This must be God’s joke. 

Oh well, lesson learned, women cannot spoil men. And, men do have the abilities to do things themselves although they may pretend that they don’t (Don’t fall for it, girls!). 

By the way, I am counting down the days now. One more month to go, and I will be in Taiwan. Seriously, a vacation is in need.

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